instruere...inlustrare...delectare Disputations

Monday, February 06, 2006

"Women are irrational, that's all there is to that"

An odd story of the human heart:

A woman we'll call K is scandalized by the apparent indifference, not merely to Church law, but to basic human decency in a well-publicized, Church-blessed marriage. The news hurts her, because her own hoped-for Church-blessed marriage would require an annulment as well as a year of "marriage prep with a celibate single guy," which she sees as "one of the kinks we still haven't quite ironed out of the system." She decides she'll be "getting married in City Hall after all," and worry about a Church blessing later if at all.

The response to her "Bite me"? An "incredible outpouring of emails" expressing sympathy, while generally urging her to do the right thing according to the Church.

Her response? She immediately contacted her diocesan tribunal to begin the process of obtaining the Sacrament of Marriage.

Now, I may be reading too much into this particular story. K had been planning on the sacrament previously, and may well have returned to that plan on her own. But if I were to abstract a moral, it would be something like this:

People can be loved to the truth.

It's not a new or startling moral, I realize, but it's worth keeping in mind, as is its corollary: People can be hated to falsehood.

You hate someone to falsehood when your hatred of them causes them to reject the truth you represent to them. It's the old, "If you're the product of Catholicism, I'm not having any." When you hear yourself saying, "Don't let the door hit you on your way out," it's a good bet you're not loving them. And when you say, "Take it or leave it," that may well be the choice they're faced with, but you may not be the one to make them face it.