Where was I?
I was talking with God last night, and it seemed what I was looking for was the Broadway Prayer, about which I first wrote seventeen years ago (!) and haven't given a lot of thought to since.
In case the details have slipped your mind as well, let me quote myself:
Fr. Clement Burns, OP, preaches something he calls "the Broadway
Prayer," for use when a person or situation in your life weighs heavily
on your heart.
The steps of the Broadway Prayer are:
Thank God for the person.
Put his name up in lights (hence "Broadway") and celebrate the good
that God has placed in him. It doesn't matter whether you feel
particularly thankful. "Dear God, thank you for my neighbor. Thank you
for the love she has for your creation [which she shows by keeping two
dozen cats]. Thank you for her enthusiasm [which keeps her up till 2
a.m. on weekends] and her sense of humor [marked by that braying
laugh]."
Ask God to change the person in some observable way.
Of course, the way you think the person should change may not be the
way God thinks he should. You just pray for what you think is best, and
leave the rest to God. The important point, for this prayer, is that the
change be something you will be able to detect. "I pray that my mother
may stop spitting tobacco juice on the rugs and shooting at squirrels
from my porch."
Thank God for changing the person. Take a
moment to imagine the person changed in the way you have asked, then
thank God for it. "Thank you, Lord, for helping him to stop insulting
Norwegians in my presence."